Category Archives: Career

Revisiting The Crisis Facing America’s Working Daughters

It’s been exactly one year since I published an article in The Atlantic titled, “The Crisis Facing America’s Working Daughters,” and so I want to examine what has changed for family caregivers in that time. Last year I wrote, “For America’s working daughters, there is little to help them navigate between their careers and the needs of their […]

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How To Feel Empowered in 2017

Truth is, I’m not a fan of the word “empowered.” But desperate times call for desperate measures. And these, working daughters, are desperate times. So know this: there are things you can do to feel empowered in 2017 and the first is to acknowledge and accept your current situation. Caregiving can make even the strongest […]

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7 Ways to Get Organized at Work (And Caregiver-Proof Your Career)

We all know working while caregiving has its challenges. So it’s incumbent upon you to set yourself up for success as best you can. That way, when caregiving does impact your job this year (and you should expect that it will!), your reputation, your inbox, your projects, and your network are all strong enough to weather the storm. […]

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“How Does She Do It All?” Is The Wrong Question

Today in the Working Daughter Facebook Group, a member raised the issue of women who seem to be able to do it all. She wanted to know what we thought of a suggestion to ask seemingly successful women what they don’t do, instead of asking how they accomplish so much. I am a proponent of […]

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Managing Caregiver Guilt: Focus on Actions, Not Thoughts

When we are called selfless, and tireless; when people talk about our sacrifice; when we do a Google images search for eldercare and this is what we see:(behold the chokehold!), we think all other caregivers must be perfect. Clearly, every other caregiver goes about their busy and overwhelming day full of love and smiles and grace and […]

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How To Build Trust at Work

One of the most challenging things about being a working daughter is that caregiving is unpredictable. You just don’t know when someone might get sick and need your help. But if there is one thing we can predict, it is that caregiving will at some point interfere with our paid work. When that happens, we […]

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5 Words Caregiver Need To Omit From Their Vocabulary

As a writer, I know that words matter. Words convey meaning and reveal character (in the case of a certain presidential candidate, for example). Words matter for caregivers too. The words we use and the things we tell ourselves can have a tremendous impact on how we perceive our caregiving experience. Research from the Department […]

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Good News for Working Daughters, and Sons

Good news working daughters! Deloitte, one of the largest professional services firm in the world, today announced the company will offer up to 16 weeks of fully paid family leave to eligible employees to support not just parenting, but eldercare, spousal care and other family issues too. In a press release, CEO Cathy Engelbert said, “By […]

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6 Tips for Staying Organized as a Caregiver

A working daughter asks, “Does caregiving make anyone else more and more forgetful or is it just me?” Oh, honey! It’s not just you. It’s everything. It’s work deadlines and client appointments and staff meetings. It’s your parents’ doctors’ appointments and medications and groceries and errands. It’s your doctor’s appointments and medications and errands and […]

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7 Tips for Managing Up At Work

Working caregivers tell me balancing work and caregiving is one of their greatest challenges. Of course it is. We need to show up, engage, and be productive when we get to work – and those things can be incredibly difficult when we are caring for, and worrying about, our aging parents. As caregivers, so much […]

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How To Be Good Enough: Tips for Managing Caregiver Stress

Caregiving is not for the weak. Nor is it for the perfect. Nope, there is no room for perfection when you are balancing caring for someone sick and/or elderly, working outside the home for pay, perhaps raising children, and trying to maintain some semblance of a life. The key to managing caregiving stress is to […]

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