Category Archives: Career

what matters most?

What Matters Most? How Caregiving Reveals The Answer

(Note: Some links in this post contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a commission if you make a purchase.) How do we identify and act upon what matters most in life? As I mentioned in last week’s post, recently I heard Anne-Marie Slaughter speak about her book Unfinished Business and what it means to balance […]

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Simplify Your Life. 55 Life Hacks for Caregivers

What Anne-Marie Slaughter Said About Balancing Paid Work and Caregiving

(Note: Some links in this post contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a commission if you make a purchase.) Last week I heard Anne-Marie Slaughter, author of Unfinished Business, speak at the 92nd Street Y in New York City. She spoke about the balancing act between paid work and unpaid caregiving and said, […]

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How Caring for Aging Parents Affects a Career: You’ll Be Surprised

People often ask me, fearing they already know the answer, “How does caring for aging parents affect a career? Can caring for your aging parents hurt your career?” But the other day, Denise Brown of, who always poses the most thoughtful questions, asked me,  “Is caregiving good for your career?” Huh. My initial reaction was heck no. My personal […]

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how to prepare for a performance review

How To Prepare For A Performance Review (When You’re Underperforming)

It’s time to prepare for your performance review at work. And the truth is, caregiving has impacted your job. You’ve been doing your best to balance career and care, but you’ve missed some days, and some deadlines. And now, your annual performance review is scheduled. Don’t worry; we’ve got you covered. Here’s how to approach […]

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5 Tips for Managing Your Emotions At Work          

  For years I thought I was rather unemotional. Boy was I wrong. I blame my lack of insight on Mr. Spock and the fact that I dined with the first officer of the starship Enterprise most nights of my youth. My father was a Trekkie and so my family watched Star Trek reruns while […]

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Finding Balance: Identify Your Non-Negotiables

Do you have difficulty saying no? Many women suffer from the “good girl syndrome.” We are raised to be good daughters, good students, good employees, good wives, good mothers, and good adult daughters. We work hard to be helpful and nice because we were raised to be that way and we come to believe that […]

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Working Daughters on the Brian Lehrer Show

I had the pleasure of joining The Brian Lehrer Show (WNYC) to discuss the challenges facing unpaid caregivers.The callers had great comments, questions, suggestions, and insights. We covered long term-care insurance, tax credits for caregivers, the importance of self-care, and the legislation we need to support working, family caregivers. You can listen here. And let’s keep the […]

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Time Poverty: The Working Daughter’s Struggle

In her 2016 annual letter, co-written with her husband Bill, philanthropist Melinda Gates talks about “time poverty,” the absence of a critical resource needed to realize your potential. This time deficit stems from unpaid work that Gates defines as, “cooking, cleaning, and caring for children and the elderly,” and she writes, “it’s overwhelmingly women who […]

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How To Run An Effective Meeting

Years ago I read an article about female faculty members who were frustrated that meetings at their university started late and ran long. The article was about gender bias at work. At the time I remember thinking, “How are poorly managed meetings a women’s issue? Aren’t they just the plight of workers everywhere?” Actually, they […]

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Parents, Not Parenting, A Bigger Work-Life Challenge?

“You’re mother should come live with you,” the doctor said, “Why isn’t she getting out more? You don’t call her every day?” “I travel a lot,” I stammered. “My sister calls her every day.” He proceeded to tell me about a seminar he attended, at Harvard he noted, about the importance of socialization for the […]

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How to Take a Vacation: Regardless of Corporate Culture or Caregiving Duties

“Is it too soon?” This is how I start my vacation request emails to my boss. That’s because every time I return from a vacation, I submit another request for more time off. Vacations remind me what’s good – spending time with my family, reading books, sleeping late, and logging off. Sadly, not everyone gets that reminder. […]

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6 Ways to Get Through the Day On No Sleep

Insomnia happens. Combine caregiving with midlife hormones and Bam! some nights you find yourself binge watching The Good Wife or trying to chase those 3 a.m. demons from your mind. (Why is it always 3 a.m.?) But in the morning, the alarm goes off as scheduled and you still need to function. Here are 6 ways to get […]

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